Why does my cat wink at me? Written by Russel in A Why does my cat wink at me? This is called the cat kiss. Staring or slowly winking at you is your feline’s way of saying ‘I love you’. It means he feels safe and there is no other place he would be but with you. Russel A pet owner who loves to share useful facts and information about animals. For now, I write mostly about dogs and cats.